Parenting

Raising children with values to make them good human beings.

Do you remember when you monitored your infants’ routine and inculcated a discipline? Did you notice how the little one got used to the timeline? This is how the infant adapts to time- sequence and it got wired in their brain.

Often as the child enters the preteen years, children want to wean off from timelines and there stems a conflict in parenting and rearing. This is also a phase where children are learning to make their own planning and time table. It is a choice they want to make and they wish to feel empowered. For a parent, this is an overwhelming phase and it is not easy to ‘Let go’.

You may find a child organized in a few areas and not in others. Challenging them or scolding them for a few goof-ups will not work. In fact, it will demotivate them to an extent that they may give up on the chores they were good at. This is a delicate phase and a prelude to the teen years and young adulthood.

Ten smooth sailing tips to help your child plan and respect time.

1.  Give them a freehand to make a timeline. Yes, in writing.

2. Agree to a few, let them learn as they try out. It is okay if they do not succeed.

3. For most kids it may sound exciting but when they are not able to meet their targets, they feel dejected. It is  of utmost importance to be with your child and accept their failings as a guide and mentor.

4. Avoid dictating a time table for them though this is a short cut method and saves time. Let them chalk up in  a neat paper and show it to you.

5. A gentle tweaking of their time and making allowances on a holiday or week day works well.

6. Encourage them when they are moody.

7. Explain them to stave off the mobile and social network. Take a walk or play with them instead.

8. Praise and reward them for all accomplishments

9. Explain to them that the most successful people manage their time well. Explaining that Time is money is not good idiom for kids. Time is IMPORTANT is a wonderful way to say it.

10.Love them for what they ARE.

 

Author : Kamakshi Gupte – Counselling Psychologist
www.thecoolparentingguide.com

Kids photo created by freepik – www.freepik.com

As a parent, we literally bringing another living, breathing, human being into the world- for the next 18 years or so.
it is our responsibility to teach our child to navigate the ups and downs of life, and the society he or she is being brought into by having a strong foundation.

Here are the life lessons to teach children :

– Good manners.
Say “Please”, ” Sorry” and “Thank you” when you are interacting with your child. Children learn best by example.

– Treat everyone with equal respect.
Every soul is precious and It does not matter what they look like, or what they do believe in, or what is their caste or status – offer unconditional love to them.

– Forgive and love with all their hearts
By showering our children with love, we can teach them to love unconditionally with all their hearts. Children will pick up important values such as empathy & respecting other people’s choices.

– Be helpful
Encourage children to offer a helping hand whenever possible. This teaches them kindness, compassion, and empathy.

– Always keep asking questions.
Life is a school and teaches us. The moment we stop learning is the moment we stop growing.

– Don’t be afraid of making mistakes.
We are human and nobody is perfect. It’s learning from mistakes that makes us grow.

– Value of honesty.
Explain to your child that he/she should always aim to tell the truth & how it helps.

– Work hard but accept be human
Grades are important, but…Being a good human being is more important.

– It’s okay to be wrong.
If we convince ourselves that we already know everything, we will never learn and grow. Keep the ego aside.

– Healthy food choices
Children adopt healthy eating habits from what they have been practicing from young. Despite your busy daily schedule,  prepare healthy meals for the family.

– Live with Happiness and Positivity
The ups and downs of life are always there. Encourage children to focus on the positives, and thank God for their blessings. There is always so much to be thankful for.

Children love to play and so does everyone. It’s a known fact the world over and it hails from centuries.

Why do you think children love to play?

There are many reasons children love to play, for instance:

– They enjoy playing very much.

– They love to create very much.

– They love to be called a “champion”, a “winner” who takes pride in winning.

– It helps them be with their friends.

– It makes them forget their worries and love themselves better.

Thus, children have a specific philosophy of life when they are especially small and adolescent. This specific philosophy is of making their life their playground where they can rejoice their victories and live life enjoyingly.

Now, you might think that your child is dumb just because he/she loves to play a lot, right?

If you as a parent are thinking like that, then you’re thinking something wrong. The children who love to play are the ones who really love life to its optimum. After all, life is a playground where you enjoyingly play games.

Here’s what playing games and outdoor sports can benefit your child:

  • Build Stamina, Health and Flexibilty.

  • Build Leadership Skills and Team Spirit.

  • Build Creative and Communication Skills.

  • Help Them Learn Sportsmanship.

  • Help Build Strength and Toughness.

Your child requires to explore the outer world that is beyond their books and feel the experience that life generates. Your child has to open up in his/her beautiful way and build upon his/her own self-confidence. If you will restrict your child within the “shell” of books and text books, your child will never be able to explore the talent that is within him/her self. After all, do you remember who said that phrase…

“All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy!”Â

As it is said, “Every Child Is Special!” Playing games make them feel more special.

Happenings @ Hansel & Gretel

 

Here are activities and workshops which will be conducted

Story Telling Session by Jeeva Raghunath

Enjoy an evening of fun and storytelling for kids by Jeeva Raghunath on Friday, March 6, 2009 at 6 p.m.

 

activities and workshops

Craft Corner – Beginners Embroidery

Introduce your child to embroidery through a beginners class on basic stitches and designs.

7 years & above.  Saturdays, 10:30 a.m.—12:30 p.m.

 

Fun with Maths – Introduction to Division

Help your children learn division using practical examples. Brain tickling quizzes and worksheets will be used for assessment every week.   7 yrs—12 yrs.

Saturdays. 2 p.m.—4p.m.

 

Baby Bounce & RhymeTime

Filled with sessions that include action songs, story time, nursery rhymes and simple games, this program focuses on all-round development in young children.  Age:  1 – 2 ½ yrs.
Weekday & Weekend Batches.

Timings: 10:30 a.m. – 12:30 p.m.

 

Effective English Series

Reading Workshop:

Enrich your child’s English language skills through reading practice with focus on fluency, pronunciation, expression, posture and eye contact.   Sundays.  3 p.m—5 p.m.  7 yrs—9 yrs

 

Creative Writing Workshop:

Unleash your child’s creative writing potential…This workshop will help young writers build their confidence, develop their creativity, improve their ability to build a cohesive story and have a lot of fun in the process!  Sundays.  1 p.m.—3 p.m.  9 yrs—12 yrs.

 

Summer Fun 2009

Public Speaking, English Enrichment, Story Time, Arts & Crafts, Drawing & Painting, Outdoor / Indoor games, Puzzles, Music and much more…

Rolling enrolment.

Apr 1 — Jun 12 2009

Half Day & Full Day Programs.

Read, Rhyme & Sing-Along
Develop your child’s language skills through interactive stories, traditional rhymes, finger-plays, sing-along songs and book reading sessions. The focus is on developing their language fluency, honing their listening skills, increasing their attention span, boosting their self-confidence and building their interest in reading.
Saturdays.  10:30 a.m.— 12 p.m. Age: 3 yrs—6 yrs
Chennai: Please contact 044 – 2815 2549 for more details.
Hansel & Gretel
11 Jagadambal Street
T.Nagar, Chennai 600 017
Ph: 28152549

As you know, every child has to grow someday but the parent still visualizes their child as their sweet little kid in their hearts. As children start maturing, they develop a change mechanism within themselves which keeps them dynamic in their behavior all the time. As they start realizing their adulthood, their way of perceiving events, people and situations drastically change. It is not a good deal for parents to always communicate with their adult children in the same way they used to speak when their children were smallParenting Adult Children With An Open MindAs a parent, you might find a lot of “roughness” within your adult child. He/she might not be matured enough to realize the fact that they have to learn to deal with their life in its most “natural” manner. Many children even after becoming adults aren’t successful in dealing with their own lives by themselves. They require their own identity, individuality and understanding to develop themselves and would not like parents interfering with their lifestyle.

Though a parent always speaks with unconditional love truly from the bottom of their hearts, a parent must tactfully speak with their adult child to make them understand their view point. Listening to their adult child’s grievances can help a parent maintain a caring relationship with their child. So, Keep an open mind! Be a good parent today! Happy Parenting!

Children often fall in bad company while they are in school or college. It can be dangerous for their future and present life. Thus, there are some necessary steps that have to be taken in order to make sure your child grow up to become respectable individuals. Parenting Children with correct steps helps the children to get on the right track.Parenting Children To Make Sure Of Their Righteous BehaviorCreating awareness about “traps” & “loops” can be a great way to make children become rationally sound and honest individuals of the society. Children require to be made aware of the threats that things like smoking, drugs, alcohol, sexual abuse and abusive behavior holds.

The key here is make them conscientious and introspective in their behavior. This will keep them in check of their own behavior. The aim is to make them perceive and realize the true reality that exists within the world.

Happy Parenting!

Children love to dream and listen to fairy tales. Dreams can be very encouraging and exciting, no wonder! Child enjoy dreaming so much that many even get lost into them. However, you must ensure that your child learns how to handle their dreams very smartly. Make Your Children Smarter and Sharper with the help of following tips. Make Your Children Smarter and SharperHere’s what you must do to ensure they grow smarter and help them achieve their dreams:

You must ensure you keep their enthusiasm getting better and better consistently.

You must ensure that you make your child feel complete with what you do for them and your child does not have any complains for you or anybody else.

Children are required to focus on certain very essential issues that relate to their growth in a big way. They are required to develop skills in many areas and some of them are very crucial to their growth. They are:

Relationships
Academics
Sports
Performance
Spiritual Psyche
Physical, Mental and Physiological
Communication
Positive Thinking
Time Management
Learning and Exploration
Health
Social Service

Most importantly, you must make efforts to enhance their confidence by sharpening their Concentration, Curiosity and Intelligence. doing so will encourage your child to become a transparent human being thus making him/her stronger than ever.

Every parent is concerned about their dearest child and every parent looks after their child’s life very seriously. Thus, every parent keeps talking repeatedly to their child about their misbehavior and this annoys children repeatedly. we should encourage our Children to become better in life in every way. Children take their parents repeated gestures as “unwanted” and as “bickering”. They dislike being told repeatedly by their parents to do things they would not like to. It irritates them to the extent that they stop talking to their parents for a while.Children To Become Better In LifeThis further leads to a communication gap which creates further misunderstandings. It comes to a situation where disrespect grows for each other and there are frequent fights which are unproductive at both ends. This is a disastrous situation for a family. Thus, a parent is mainly responsible for keeping the family intact. So, a parent must take lead to reanalyze the situation and make changes to their own behavior or style of working.

Firstly, Keep cool and calm. Do not exaggerate the situation whatever the case maybe.

Secondly, it is a matter of conviction. What matters is you convince them about your thoughts rather than enforce your thoughts on your child.

Thirdly, clarify with your own self of what you want. You must have a clear idea of what you want.

Fourthly, Look for an appropriate time when you think your child will listen to you utmost and then approach them with a smile.

Fifth, discuss freely but do not browbeat, complain, criticize, condemn or analyze in front of them. It would irritate them a lot. Stick to the point and make them visualize what you mean to say.

Sixth,  Speak the truth and say it genuinely. If you’re genuine in your thoughts, your child cannot evade listening to you et all.

Be A Good Parent Today! Happy Parenting!

Children must stand on their own two feet by themselves once they become mature adults. For them to become independent, there is a quality of “self-service” to be embedded within their personality. Most Indian children are shy of doing their own work by themselves and think that doing basic chores is a dirty thing to do. It is parents who make them think like that and that myth of theirs has to be eradicated as urgently as possible.Basic ChoresThe point is to enable children with a skill to fulfill their own needs in case they are left alone in this world during any period of their life with no one to assist them. Self-dependency can be extremely beneficial to your children at most period of times and give them a sense of self-esteem with a lot of self-confidence.

For instance, there are cooking classes that teach cooking. If you enroll your child into a cooking class or even teach your child to learn cooking so that they can make food for themselves, that would be a great idea.

Or even,

You can teach them to keep the house clean all by themselves.

Make your child active by teaching them the necessary household chores and keep them aware of their responsibilities. These kind of teachings can keep them tough in life and always prepared to face any challenge.

Be A Good Parent Today! Happy Parenting!

Children are sweet and their sweet smile leads you to think of their innocence. They are truly the gift of god especially for parents and grand parents. The need is to preserve the gift of god carefully with love and peace. Children require special care and attention as they wish to feel secured by their parents. Children will feel lonely if there is no one to guide them. Moreover, if they experience violence in any form in the outside world or even at home, they would succumb to depression and phobias.

If you as a parent are violent in any way with your child whParenting Childrenether verbal or physical, it is a high point that you must realize to curb these activities as they are a dangerous form of abuse. A parent must realize that their child is most sensitive to what their parents think, feel, say, do and believe about them. Children have high amounts of morale boosting expectations from their parents as they wish to be guided, mentored and motivated by their parents who they count as their own role models.

Parenting children will experience violence at some point of time in their lives in any form and this possibility cannot be eradicated completely though certain traits can be developed in your child to help them deal with such situations. However, a parent must ingrain the “strength building” skills into their child as the child starts becoming an adult from a teenager. Whatever the case may be, you must become a support system for your child until he/she can become independent by themselves. Parenting your children with a promise that you would utilize “silence” as your tool to deal with your children and teach them lessons of life without the use of violent abuse. Parenting your children with a smile is the ultimate way to deal with your children. Be A Good Parent Today! Happy Parenting!