It’s one of nature’s ways that we often feel closer to distant generations than to the generation immediately preceding us. There’s always a very close bonding between grandparents and grandchildren.
Grandparents only ask for love and respect. They have lived all the joys, but the love of their grandchildren is what they really live for. It’s easy for grandchildren to back-answer their grandparents. But it is the duty of the parent to teach them how to be polite to them.
Among the three generations, it is always the parent (middle) which is the most mature. Grandparents do tend to act childish, but that is natural. Let the children and their grandparents speak their mind, but at the same time make sure that your children are not rude. If they back-answer once and get away with it, they will do so again, so you need to make sure that you check them the very first time they back-answer.
Grandparents expect their grandchildren accept them for themselves, without rebuke or effort to change us, as no one in our entire lives has ever done, not their parents, siblings, spouses, friends – and hardly ever their own grown children. What children need most are the essentials that grandparents provide in abundance. They give unconditional love, kindness, patience, humor, comfort, lessons in life. And, most importantly, cookies.
Never order your children to respect their grandparents. Let the children know that their grandparents love them and are happy to spend time with them, but the children should behave themselves when they are with their grandparents as neither the grandparents, nor you, will tolerate any nonsense. Respect should come naturally.
Grandparents do tend to spoil their grandchildren by ignoring all their mistakes, but you should ask them to make sure that the children are not acting rude.
Teach by example. Do not correct your parents in front of your children, as your children will tend to do the same. Similarly, never lose your temper with your parents, or raise your voice at them in front of your kids, even if it is for something like telling your parents to have their medication on time. Be as polite to your parents as possible in front of your children, and your children will follow your example.
Always remember, God couldn’t be everywhere so he made grandparents to make up for his absence.